The Manual
The Manual
People often ask me about communication. How important that is to Me. Well, it sure is. In fact I think it is the most imporatant things of them all. Without communication there is no interaction. Without interaction, there is no Femdom.
Now in Femdom, the communication is mainly a top/down thing. The Domme acts and the slave reacts. But not only, the slave also communicates with his Mistress. Even if he is not talking. Constantly he does. His body speaks to her. If she is able to understand that means.
But let´s start with the Mistress first. Naturally her communication will be giving orders mainly. And it is of such utmost importance that the slave understands those correctly and then immediately reacts to them. I really cannot stress this point enough. It is the basis of everything. Mistress and slave will only be able to reach this ultimate goal of total power exchange if this basic understanding is there and works.
So for the sake of enhancing your interaction with your slave I have put together a manual of basic orders that I think are crucial for every Domme/sub relationship.
In general he will first have to learn that he is always “under” you. In a spiritual sense and – to demonstrate and also reinforce that in his head – in a very practical sense too. So that means that his head will always be beneath yours, he will always look up to you and you will look down on him. It shall never be the other way round. If that is not possible, for example because you are walking around in public, he shall always be behind you, never in front. Remember: You lead, he follows.
You will be surprised of the big impact that simple rule will have on your interaction.
The Domme shall see that he carries out the orders exactly as they are defined. His ultimate goal will be to succesfully do so. This is why I have enclosed photos to show the exact performance of the positions. i expect every slave who applies for a session with Me to know these commands by heart before he comes to see Me for the first time. They are simple enough to be memorized even by an unenducated male dog. If he does not, I´ll kick him out. Period.
Should My female readers want to change the orders according to their personal needs and taste, feel free to do so. However make sure that you have a precise idea of what you want and then stick to it.
Every order can be given in two different ways: By a spoken command or by a silent gesture with My hands. The spoken command is just simply the name of the position, the gesture is shown beneath on the photos. If I want to use the gesture, for example when in public, I announce that with the sound of a “clicker”. The clicker is a very useful simple device used in dog training. It makes a short clicking noise that My slaves are conditioned upon. Upon hearing this specific sound they will immediately get down on his knees (if not in the open public) and look at my hands to “read” from there and then follow the given order. This is very convenient because it allows Me to direct them precisely even over longer distances without the need to yell around. The clicker is a perfect stimulus, it tells the slave that I am just about to interact with him, it raises his attention and sharpens his senses. Ever seen a dog pricking up his ears and swaggering his tail when called upon? That´s the idea.
So here are the positions, have fun with them. Your feedback on your own training results would be very much appreciated.
Position # 1: Waiting Position
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This is maybe the most important of them all. At least the one that you will use most often. Because as W/we all know the slave´s live is waiting and he sure will do so in Waiting Position.
The position of the head and the hands is of paramount importance here. Face down on the floor, palms up. By opening his plams to his Mistress he shows his openness, his readiness to receive whatever she has to offer. Never let him get away with showing you the backside of his hands when in Waiting Position. I really cannot understand why so many people get that simple thing wrong.
Remember, I talked about the slave communicating with you in the beginning? This is a perfect example how he does. his body communicates submission to you even though he does not speak, of course not. he will never speak when in Waiting position, this is an absolute no-go. Speaking would destroy his tension. he will not even be allowed to look at you when in waiting position.
Position # 2: Inspection
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This will usually be the second position he will assume after Waiting. His hands behinds his back, at least stripped to the waist (if not fully naked) he will present his body for your inspection. Make sure that he holds himself very straight, doing a hollow back, in no case bent forward or with a round back. His whole body must speak of tension, readiness, awareness, attendence for you.
Position # 3: Collaring Position
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This is what I call the sacred position. The collaring is the divine moment of transformation. The friction of the second in which you and your sub change like in a holy sacrament. You become the Owner, the Mistress, the Keeper. He becomes the slave, the object, the dog. Once the collar is around his neck, he is yours. Always cherish this very special moment. Take your time. Think of a high priestess performing a sacred ceremony in front of her believers and followers. Move slowly, make little pauses. Make sure he hears and understands the little “click” of the closing lock around his neck. By doing so, you will engrave the extreme significance of this ritual into his slavish mind.
Collaring Position has a variation that you see here:
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This is how I execute Collaring Position when the slave is collared by Me for the very first time. Laying the chain on My lap just as an invitation to the slave to put his throat on it for closure and so to offer himself to Me is the true moment of enslavement. And I will never force anybody to become My slave. It will be the deep-hearted wish of the submissive to become My slave. he surrenders himself to the Mistress, offers himself as a gift. It is in fact his last act of free will forever. And the Initial Collaring Position symbolizes that.
Position # 3: Doormat Position
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The name tells it all. Use the doormat to clean your shoes. Step on it. Great position to start some breathtaking smothering too…
Position # 4: Worm Position
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Worm Position is very much like Doormat, however just with the slave laying on his front with his face on the ground, preferably in the dirt. Just like the worm that he is. This is so simple! Why are so many man having problems to learn that?
Position # 5: Present Balls/Chastity
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Let him offer his most precious parts to You. Presenting his balls he shows that he knows that they are truely yours. Yours to grab, to squeeze, to whip, to caress, to kick, to wank them. Whatever.
When he is in chastity it is the same command but with a different name. This is to keep him aware that he does not have any more balls to show. But only a pathetic cock in chastity. You have in fact taken his manhood form him and he will be grateful to you that you did so. You will wear a key as the symbol of his virilty on a chain around your neck. There is no stronger symbol of ownership.
Position # 6: Ashtray*** Pictures here ***
This is a very useful position even for the non-smokers amongst you. As you have noticed already, there are positions for every body opening of the slave to present himself to you in all openness and vulnerability. This one here is for the mouth. In Ashtray he will bend his head back and open his mouth wide to be ready to receive whatever you feel like throwing into it. Cigarette ash, the butt of your cigarette, your spit, the warm golden liquid that is much to precious to be flushed down the toilet…
Note that he will not have permission to swallow until given expressly. This is especially nice with insertions that leave a bad taste in his mouth so he will have to fight the urge to put away with it. Having him carry the ash of a whole cigarette in his snout is wonderful. As you delicously inhale your draws you will calmly watch his ever intensifying inconvenience. His mouth will soon dry out and the desire for a simple gulp will become overwhelming. Combines nicely with a golden shower after you´re finished with the cigarette.
Position # 7 : Slut position
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This is a good one for humiliating purposes. Lying on his back presenting openly and defenselessly the most intimate parts of his body to your looks, boot or whip he will surely feel as the slut he is. The position that best fits the real slavish state of mind.
The position of his body shall be such that you are standing between his open legs to have easiest access to his cock and balls.
It is one of my favorite positions for Sissies: Funny to see how they get a hard on as soon as the word “slut” emerges from My sensual lips.
I also like the humiliating effect when I expose My slave to a watching audience. Presenting himself as a slut, lying so helplessly on his back like a bug is so very much degrading for him. Even more so than following the Mistress on all fours dragged along on a leash. Hits best when the order comes as My gesture and totally out of the blue for him in front of people he still hopes to be somewhat respected by. I just love this.
Position # 8: Present Pussy
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This is somewhat similar to “Slut”, however with his belly and chest down and the pussy ass up. Ready to eagerly absorb whatever you should want to shove in there.
Position # 9: Handcuffs
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This is more of a practical, technical position used for your convenience, not as symbolic as “Collaring” for example. Ever so often you will have to shackle his arms. This is simply the easiest position for you to do so.
Some slaves pathetically hold their arms up and add all kind of silly useless variations. Well they just shouldn’t. It is nothing but a convenient position for you to shackle their arms. Nothing more. period. Come on, this is not that difficult, right frank?
Position # 10: Punishment Position
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This is for sure an important one as well. Astonishingly it is one of the newest positions. Maybe that is because I used all different types of punishment positions before. You may have your variations as well but it sure is important to have like one “official” position for punishment that the slave will adopt automatically upon Your command without a second thought. Is there anything more important for a slave than his readiness for the Mistress’s punishment? Well, now thinking about it: His eagerness to serve the Mistress maybe.
I generally want all the positions to be assumable without any furniture/pillars so they can be used anywhere, anytime. The Mistress might add toys and equipment for her pleasure if she has them at hand, but the positions should be usable without them.
In Punishment Position the bottom of the slave should be easily accessible. So as you see on picture a) he will be standing, bent, with hands on the knees, waiting for Mistress to choose if She will hit the bottom or the back.
Punishment Position however has a possible variation: Depending on the severity of the impending punishment and the spatial conditions at hand, I might want to tie the slave up. In this case I will combine the command with pointing My indication finger to the piece of furniture, torture device or whatever to which I want to affix the slave. He will then bent over that with his ass at the highest spot and his wrists and ankles next to the best fixing opportunities. The photo b) here shows the usage of an easy chair how you will find it in every hotel room as an example.
Position #11: Serving
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This is more of a process than a position really; however I show it here as it is so important.
It is how the slave should present everything he offers to the Mistress. he will use his left hand as a tray for the object of service and hold that firmly with his right hand until she takes it from him. If there are several things to offer, he might use a real tray for the convenience of the Mistress. However if there is no one at hand, he will present the objects one by one with his hands used as a tray, even if it takes some time. It is quality of service above speed here. It might sure need some face slaps before he has understood that. It did for some of My slaves I have to admit.